My parents are against my marriage. They say that my fiancèe is inferior to me in culture and education. I will leave my plans to please my parents?

Who is going away to marry you are you and not its parents. Nevertheless, although the decision depends on you, the opinion of its parents is of supreme importance. When you make the decision, the responsibility will be entirely hers. But the advice of his parents is very valuable because he is based on experience, the one that gives to wisdom and intuition generally.

The Bible, in Efesios 6 says:

“Children, obey to their parents, because this is just. He honors to your father and your mother, who is the first order with promise; so that he goes to you well and you are of long life on the Earth “.

The fact that you do this question to me, indicates that he is not safe of his love towards his fiancèe. Of another way, same you had convinced your parents.

When thinking the subject before God, must respond to the following questions honestly:

1. I feel proud of my fiancèe, or it would shame me to present/display it to an important personage?

When I did this question to him to a friend mine, it answered to me: “Sight, although I want much to it and she is pretty, truely it would give shame me to present/display it because lack education, does not know to him to express themselves well, nor to dress appropriately”. Then I responded to him: “In that case, insurance that it is not for you”.

If you are not proud of your fiancèe, if she is shamed to present/display it to the others, she means that in fact she does not love it.

In the cántico to the love in the Bible, in 1 Corintios 13 it says:

“the love is undergone, is benign, the love does not have envies, the love is not jactancioso, the love not envanece”.

When a fiancè considers that her fiancèe is inferior, means that he is envanecido and therefore there are evidences of true no love.

2. I feel respect by my fiancèe, or I take liberties to mistreat it?

How many fiancès mistreat their fiancèe nevertheless and they insist to love it truely! They are being deceived themselves and deceiving its fiancèe.

The same cántico to the love of 1 Corintios 13 continues thus:

“… the love is not indecoroso, does not look for his, is not irritated, does not keep resentment, is not enjoyed the injustice, but it is enjoyed the truth. All it undergoes it, all creates it, all waits for it, all supports it. The love never lets be “.

If when you gets angry you hurt easily to its fiancèe with sharp words, it would be another very evident signal that still it does not know the true love. Clear it is that all we have weaknesses and sometimes we lose the patience, but if you are lost the respect by her and she takes liberties to mistreat it, or with words or facts, the best thing is than it does a something in the way of his life and in oration it asks to him God if truely it loves this girl or no.

3. I have total confidence in the love and the fidelity of her, or is jealousy and suspicions infundadas within my mind and heart?

It is necessary to consider that the jealousy are a projection of our own infidelity. Often a person is jealous because she herself was unfaithful previously and soon she suspects that their fiancèe also is it. The jealousy according to the Bible are work of the meat, of our sinful nature and ours uncontrolled egoistic I.

When a person has jealousy and infundadas suspicions arriving at the point to make the ridiculous situation, she must take one signs determination. In the first place, to kneel down before God and to request pardon, because the jealousy are a sin that destroys the relation between fiancès or spouses.

God always is arranged to pardon. But the pardon is not enough, because often the jealousy persist. It must request to same God that comes to order its mind in the person of Jesus Christ being prayed: “Jesus Christ, I need to you in my heart. Acquittal with your east power egocentrismo that makes suspect me the person who more master in the world. Apodérate of my passions and arráncalas of my being. Líbrame of these jealousy that oppress to me “.

After this oration you are going to experience the freedom that the Son of God grants. Abrale its heart to Christ, is going to renew its mind, clearing to him the jealousy and suspicions that they prevent him to enjoy the happiness that as much it yearns for. Right now put his life in the hands of Christ.

4. We can talk long together without boring to us, or we did not find anything in common to talk?

There is an saying that says: “the true love speaks”. The true love wishes to communicate, but when a young pair does not find anything of what speaking, it will be able to establish friendship for the rest of his lives? The marriage is not only physical love, but that also includes moral and spiritual love. It implies an intimate communication between the man and the woman.

5. Treatment of being a man who inspires his respect, or I try to prevail before any circumstance? This is an extremely important question.

The Bible says in Efesios 5: “Someteos an a the others in the fear of God”.

The true love always goes to the mutual understanding, to the common agreement, the submission of wills. But the submission is difficult. The Bible says that without Christ it is impossible, because they are in game two egoistic wills. The only way to obtain mutual submission is that both parts are put under first a Christ.

6. Am my fiancèe and I true believers in Jesus Christ, or no?

The Bible says in 2 Corintios 6:

“you do not join yourselves in unequal yoke with the incredulous ones; because what comradeship has justice with the injustice? and what comunión the light with the darknesses ” Have you and your fiancèe to Christ in the heart? Both must put their lives in the liberating hands of Christ, otherwise never they are going to be totally happy. This is the solid base to make the decision to marry or not with its fiancèe. *